THE BUBBLE

The comfort zone (as told by UrbanDictionary.com): “Someone’s personal and comfortable space. Upon trespassing into the zone without knowing the person may just result in a person acting stuck up, rude, or hostile towards the intruder.”

Thanks, Urban Dictionary. They are the masterminds behind the millennial, skewed perception of the world told in simple, and often humorous definitions.

As an introvert (self-proclaimed but true), I take my comfort zone seriously. It takes a lot of energy for me to go out and leave the comfortable state that is my personal space.

Side note: Introverts get their energy from being alone/ doing activities alone/ can often only handle large groups or stimulating social interactions for short periods before they need to ‘recharge’ again by being alone. While extroverts get their energy or the most stimulation by being in social situations with groups of people. Not saying they don’t enjoy being alone, but they don’t necessarily NEED it in order to properly function without risks of anxiety.

Last night, I had the opportunity to go out or stay in my bed. Sadly, I chose staying in bed and watching vlogs on youtube, while twitching from the zzQuil I took. (Zzquil is powerful). I notice I often say no to activities because I just want to stay in my comfort zone which is in my room with my headphones on. So I decided to give a little guide for myself and anyone who struggles with this issue:

Ways to stay in your comfort zone:

  1. put your headphones on/in, zone out the world. focus on yourself and tune everyone out. tip: walk around with headphones in. people won’t approach you, and you may even seem more important than you are.
  2. try not too. honestly, you will remember the times when you made memories with friends more than when you layed in bed eating ice cream.

Ways to stay out of your comfort zone:

1. take out your headphones. smile at a stranger/classmate/homeless person on the street. a smile is worth a thousand words, be friendly!

2. talk to someone new. anyone who you find interesting. just a simple hi or hello could spark a great conversation. if that is too out of your zone, ask them for something. (directions, the time, to hold the elevator, a pencil, anything). people aren’t as scary as you think they are. 

3. learn to not say no to any invitation you get. go over every possible reason why you shouldn’t go out there and experience the world, and try to discredit them. if the reasons aren’t valid and you just are being lazy, get up and go. you will enjoy it, i promise. (if you don’t, i am sorry. ice cream on me)

4. let go. live in the present and take moments to think of your expirience in the past. remember that moment that still makes you happy and laugh to this day, it probably was a crazy adventure you never planned. go out there and let go – you never know what might happen.  

Xoxo

MOVING ON

Change. The only constant thing in life, change. People change. Your environment changes. You change. Everything changes, and we must learn to accept this before we realize it the hard the way. 

Drama has always surrounded me and it has affected many of my relationships. I used to be really unhappy with myself and my decisions, and I let that anger manifest inside me. This caused me to be angry at the world, and the people that were around me. I took all my anger out at them, and lost many dear friendships because of it. I used to be really lost in myself and my life. It affected me during my pivotal years growing up, but it molded me into the person I am today. 

I dealt with unimportant ‘drama’ throughout elementary, middle, and early high school. Girl drama, boy drama. All the same meaningless energy wasted. 

I lost a lot of friends. Once I realized who I was and gained confidence in myself, I gained a lot of friends. This process wasn’t easy, and took a few years and few thousand tears spent on making mistakes. Mistakes that cost friendships. At that time, losing friends interrupted my entire world. It shook up the ground I walked on, and I felt lost and alone. I didn’t have enough independence and enough knowledge to know that this change was neccessary. Growing up involves losing friends and learning to be on your own. 

Of course, losing friends is always hard. When I became the mold of who I was (I am constantly growing and learning more) but when the hard mold was made, I realized who my true friends were. It was at that moment, that I gave up the whole drama thing. Yes, fights or small disagreements are bound to happen with people who spend a lot of time with each other- but it wasn’t middle school drama anymore. I put the energy that I had been WASTING into making my life a positive, happy, and healthy one. I put more into my relationships, and learned to put all my love and effort into my friends and family. 

Learning more about myself and becoming the person I am today (self-intuitive, strong, somewhat confident) has made me realize how your inner thoughts on yourself can affect those closest to you. And not always in a positive way. 

I learned to love myself first. To give myself the chance to grow and have POSITIVE people around me. I can’t stress this enough. If your friends don’t make you happy and inspired, let go. If your energy goes down, and you feel weak and drained trying to compete/deal with friends, let go. Having to make new friends is tough, but it can be done. You must have like minded people who are happy for you and who make you happy in order to succeed. It will make life so much easier, and you will cherish your time here on earth even more. 

Love yourself and those around you so much you think it’s too much. Give all you’ve got to the ones you love, and you will recieve it back, I promise. Change is inevitable, and your change is important. Grow and move on, and put yourself first always. 

Xoxo

NOSTALGIA

Am I a hypocrite? I often preach and give my guidance and advice to living a positive and happy life, but I find myself having the hardest time accepting my own words. Regarding my post about not letting nostalgia having any power in our lives, that can be very very tough. 

APPARENTLY the cancer, the mighty emotional water sign, has a tendency to be nostalgic for the past. For this intangible thing that cannot be reached anymore. It’s gone, but it occupies most of my thoughts…

I think has a lot to do with my thoughts on the past and the truth. The skewed truth. Whenever I think of the past, it is always tied with good feelings and even better memories. This isn’t true. My life wasn’t easy breezy, and the photos I look back on only capture the very best moments and experiences through the years. 

Not to discredit your pasts, we all share memories with old friends and old times that were incredible. And should be revered as so. But I need to stop letting the good out way the bad, and not keep allowing myself to believe the past was better than the present or any experiences that could happen in the future. 

One thing I have really enjoyed about creating this blog has been seeing the feedback from the site. I also enjoy freeing my thoughts and having an outlet to remind myself what is important and a place to look back on and see my growth. I read each piece I write like anyone else who reads them, and try to follow my positive words. It is hard to practice a mindful and positive lifestyle, but the first step is letting go. Let go of everything you have tied to positive living and free your brain of others thoughts and judgements. This process is lengthy and hard, but so rewarding. It’s an everyday battle to remind our brains to let go of the harmful and negative thoughts. But it can be done. 

Wake up and believe in yourself and believe in being happy. Happiness is the ultimate goal, so make choices throughout the day to make YOU happy. Focus on yourself. Don’t care what others think, and don’t base your actions/opinions on pleasing anyone. Smile, relax, and think about how lucky you are to be alive right now in this moment. We are so lucky…

Xoxo

 

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Just a short reminder to not romanticize the past. I have noticed myself doing this more, and it’s something to take note of. Yes, amazing things and moments and experiences happened in the past, but they are in the past for a reason. We often only remember the good memories, and block out the bad. We left the past for a reason and we must remember to focus on the present. Don’t get so caught up in this romanticized version of a life you used to live, because more times than not, you are where you are and doing what you’re doing for a reason. Make it count. 

THE CLASSICS

While my brain is fried from the act of repeating art history facts over and over from flash cards, I have taken a new appreciation for the classics. Or classical music, specifically. My roommate suggested I listen to music at a lower level or not at all, in order to focus on learning and memorizing the great artists throughout history.

In high school (and all previous education), I have always struggled with science classes. Of all genres, sub-genres, and so on. During my year of chemistry, I was lucky enough to be placed in a class with two of my best friends. This made the class easier, and harder. I wouldn’t focus as much as I could at seven in the morning when my class was, which meant my outside studying and learning took precedence over my other classes. I went over to my best friend’s house every day after school and spent hours trying to wrap my head around the ins and outs of chemistry. I found a love for classical music during this time, especially the masterpieces created by Mozart.

Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, this blog post is an ode to you! Your work makes life seem a little slower, and a lot more appreciated. I feel so completely calm while listening to the smooth and powerful melodies in his symphonies. This inspired me and had me thinking of what a feat it is that we can enjoy these classic and beautiful pieces of art in 2015. I search in Spotify ‘Mozart’ and all of his most famous symphonies pop up, and I have access to all of his genius work at the tip of my fingers. It is so amazing that I can listen to the classical world that was actually lived in so long ago, and I can feel partially connected to a time that seems so foreign to the world we live in today.

When I put my headphones on and listen ‘Serenade in G Major’ (which can be found easily on Spotify, it is his most listened to piece), I feel truly connected to this time. I was listening to it earlier today in one of my school’s study lounges, and it gave me an entirely new perspective on the people and world around me. I can’t help but smile when I listen to this piece and my other favorite, Requiem: Lacrimosa. These symphonies are so beautiful and amazing and powerful I could cry.

What I really want to get at is the power of the classics, and how readily available these fascinating works of art are to us. If I have one suggestion it is to listen to any classical artist with all encompassing headphones on for one day. (Mozart specifically because he is a genius). Do this and look around, it will fascinate you. Wherever you live will become something magical, a world of bright color and loud sounds. It will transport you into a time where everything that was done had a dramatic flair attached. It will give you a new insight to your everyday activities, and make you appreciate what you are surrounded by. You may even smile a bit thinking about how lucky we are to be who we are, and live the lives we live. I hope this is what Mozart wanted, for his work to make people think and contemplate while being taken back in time. Thank you Mozart for giving me a new perspective on frantic college students, and the busy landscape of San Francisco. You are truly a genius.

Xoxo

GOODMORNING

It isn’t morning anymore, but time is fleeting and irregular during finals week. My day has been filled with lots of coffee and fueled by lots of brain power. I have finals coming up, aka tomorrow Saturday and next Thursday. My roommate has been kind enough to help me study. I just kind of realized how bad I am at actually studying, and how little attention I put into studying. I can’t focus at all! 

Just a little motivation to get you through your day, whether it be the morning or night where you are. We wake up in order to tackle a new day, a new chance to do what we want and what we can. We try to do all we can in 24 hours or less, and we must remind ourselves to accomplish all we can in one day. Every one who has ever made their dreams come true have had as much time as you to get work done. Do whatever you can in order to make your dreams come true. 

I try to focus on something or some event in order to motivate myself. I think of something coming up that is exciting, and if I can just pass this one test or write this essay- I’ll get there! This method can put into perspective what you truly care about, and make menial tasks important in order to get to what you truly want. I am focused on passing my exams and doing well my first semester so I can get on a plane home to see all my beloved friends and family! Winter break if fueling my motivation and making me focus on the NOW. I am going to pass and I am going to do well because I believe in myself. Believe in yourselves, because you can get through this hard and stressful time. You’ve done it before! These hard few weeks aren’t anything new- and you can get through it like you always have! Don’t give up and give yourself time to relax and breathe. Don’t make yourself exhausted and sick because you’re working so hard. Give yourself a break every so often so you can be the most mindful, focused, and determined to get through your next tasks. You can do it- you can do anything. 😇

Xoxo

YOU

Believing in ourselves can be hard. Sometimes even impossible. Thinking that we can actually reach our full potential as people seems magical and unattainable. Why as a society have we not chosen to uplift ourselves at every possible chance we got? Why is it okay to put yourself down. Why hasn’t it been instilled in us that we can have it all. Regardless of all the external issues that we face, we can have what we want if we just try. Granted, trying has its own issues. We may fail. We may succeed. But we must TRY first and foremost. 

Why don’t we believe we are the best? Why do we let women AND men look in the mirror and believe they are inadequate because of the reflection that stares back. It honestly baffles me how people can not think they are beautiful. I fall in love with people every day. When you fall in love with someone and their small idiosyncrasies and maneurisms, you notice them as a whole. The way their nose is aligned or the way look in their jeans doesn’t matter anymore. (Just examples, we must learn to accept all humans and all of their body parts/shapes/sizes).  

I love to preach this because I find myself fighting an inner battle with self confidence daily. I don’t like the way I look in the mirror sometimes, and it affects how I see myself as a person. I always catch myself falling into a spiraling hole of self doubt and depression, and that’s when I get inspired to write and speak about this ISSUE. 

It’s so easy to look in the mirror or think to yourself: I wish I looked like blank or I wish I could do this. But the fact is, right now, you are all you’ve got. The body you are in and the mind you have worked for, is what you are stuck with. You have culminated a life A WHOLE LIFE of laughter, love, successes, failures, and experiences. Don’t belittle yourself into thinking you must look or act a certain way to fit in. That would be diminishing everything you have spent your time working towards, and you would be accepting that your successes aren’t as good as the persons you wish to become. Don’t lose sight of yourself while wanting and wishing for more, because you are enough. If you haven’t been told that or aren’t told enough, you are enough. I am enough and so are you. We must work actively and mindfully to believe this, truly truly believe it one day. 

So I beg you to go look in the mirror or take out a journal and write down what you love about yourself. Anything. Even the littlest things you may think aren’t worth it- it is and you are. You are a million memories and moments put into a beautiful human being who deserves the world. Go act like it! 

Xoxo 

A reminder to not take life so seriously. All of your worries right this moment won’t matter in a week, month, or even a year. Let go of your worries, and live in the moment. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Cheesy, but true! 

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